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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious and the Most
Merciful.
This is
my first trial, my entry is fully in english, It need strength to write, as I
am a typical Malay that still learning the foreign languages. So just ignore
the grammatical error or the language style that is not fulfill your tastes of
writing.
Before
that, I wish all the muslims all around the world, Happy Eid Mubarak.
Taqabbalallahu minna waminkum. (May Allah received our good deeds especially
during our tarbiyah month -Ramadhan).
In Malaysia,
it is a phenomenon, when Syawal comes there will be many wedding invitations we
received. From our relatives, friends or from our neighbourhood. At this level
of age, I know, the most frequent Question (Frequently Ask Question, F.A.Q) is
when will you getting married? so,we have to prepare with the answer
scheme.-Only Allah knows when the time will come. Just pray hard for us. Haha.
(This is mine, what is yours?). In a meantime, who did not touched when the nearest
people are getting married or getting engaged?
When 'we'
started feeling lonely, then we posted about looking for our soulmate-to-be.
About our hopes and expectations via facebook or twitter. Of course, it is not
wrong, but just the way we portray what is inside our heart just inappropriate,
Then it getting worse and worse, from the good intentions then it become
slander towards us. So, here I just share the right steps of choosing 'him' or
'her'. This is also can be practice if you are in the dilemma of making any
decisions in your life instead of looking for your soulmate-to-be only. For
instance, choosing for university, what course, buying a house or a car and
etc.
Sharing is caring ♥:
4 steps to make decisions that have been outlined by Islam:
(making decision is one of the higher order thinking, not
everyone has the skill to make fast n accurate decisions)
1. Think logically. Choose the best among the rest. Follow
what Allah has guided. If still can't make decision,
2.Do istisyarah. Do discuss with your parents, friends,
teacher or someone who has knowledge about the thing. If still can't,
3.Do istikharah. Ask Allah in the pray what is the best for
you. Allah won't give you the direct signs what is the best. Just give trust to
Him.
4. If still can't 'see' what is the best, just choose, make
the decision, then, be consistant (istiqamah). Put your trust to Allah. Allah
will give you at the right time, and at the right place. So, be patient!
p/s: just recently, many posts about looking for 'tulang
rusuk kiriku yang hilang' n finding her 'imam'.. so, just share, the right way
of finding it rather than only tell people what is your hopes and expectances..
Peace no war ^^,. Sometimes we have to sacrifice what pleased us, to invite
Allah's pleasure.
Let's hear what Syaykh Abdul Nasir Jangda says about istikharah. click here
and what Hilal Asyraf says about the same. (Malay version). click here
